Tell her thank you…. | Single Moms

If you were raised by a single momma, go give her a hug, or call her up and tell her thank you. Because you probably don’t realize how many sacrifices she made to get you where you are.

You probably don’t realize how many times she stayed up until 2 AM figuring and re-figuring bills. Trying to decide how to make ends meet that week.

How many times she cried in the shower because she couldn’t buy you those new shoes you wanted.

How many months she wore those leggings with a run in them because making sure you got new fall clothes was more important.

How many 12 and 14 hour days she pulled to make sure you had a home cooked meal that week.

How many times she tucked you in and said sorry, because she had to tell you no, you didn’t have the money that day.

How many times a bill collector called because she had to pick one bill over the other that week.

How many times she put a smile on when you walked in the door despite how physically and mentally exhausted she was.

How many home repairs and car repairs she learned to do on her own because paying someone wasn’t an option.

How many times she turned down help because she wanted to prove she could do it on her own, and she wanted you to be proud of her.

How many times she put you first and herself last because that’s what mommas do.

Or how hard she loved you and to her those sacrifices were worth it all. Because seeing you smile meant more than her own.

Go tell her thank you.

-Jamie Lea

Keep it Trashy | Relationship Advice


Keep your relationship alive, even if it means wearing a trash bag in the nude……

Our conversation went something like this:

“ I love it. “

“ You’d say that even if I was wearing a trash bag…… “

“ TRY ME. “

Far to often we let relationships become routine. We do the same things each day. We say the same things each day.

“You look nice.”
“I love you.”
“Love you too.”
“Have a good day.”
“I miss you.”
“How was your day?”
” Good. Yours?”

It is easy to get lost in routine. After all routine keeps things in order. When life is busy and hectic. We look for order.

I ran to the kitchen, in the buff, grabbed a trash bag from under the sink. Made a hole for my neck, and two arm holes, and threw it over my head, and snapped some of the “trashiest” nudes he’d ever seen.

My intention wasn’t to turn him on, although I wore that trash bag damn good, if I do say so myself…

My intention was to catch him off guard, make him smile, throw us out of normal conversation.

His next words were, “ You are perfect. “ While laughing with tears running down his face.

Which in turn lead to returned compliments, talking about how crazy we are about each other, planning a date night, and many laughs.

Now am I saying you need to run through your house naked with a trash bag over your head, no……. I just saw my opportunity and took it.

I am saying jump out of your routine, do something to make them laugh, give them an extra compliment, let them hear something they haven’t heard you say in a long time, dance in the kitchen, plan a date night, bring home flowers for no reason, fix his favorite meal, go have sex on your roof…..okay don’t do that if you have neighbors…..but you get my point.

Don’t fall into routine, keep your relationship alive, even if you have to send nudes in a trash bag.

Keep it trashy….

-Jamie Lea

I am in a relationship……yes you read that right.

Where have I been you ask? Oh just a little preoccupied. I would love to go into great detail, and talk your leg off about this wonderful person I met, but I think the video will explain itself. PLUS, if you subscribe to our YouTube channel you can follow our entire journey and learn even more about the both of us.

So here it goes, take a peek into my world and what I have been up to………

Drum roll please…………

Ladies and gentlemen, I give you Bryan…….enjoy.

To be continued……..

– Jamie Lea

Weight Loss Journey Update: Dance Fitness


Let, me give you a good laugh at my expense. I feel like when I hit my 20s my body forgot how to move in sync and all my rhythm went out the window. Nevertheless, I got back into my Dance Fitness grind this week.

These cardio routines from Dance Fitness with Jessica saved my life. When I was 223 lbs. working out was the last thing on my mind. Until her “Dark Horse” video popped up on my Facebook newsfeed one evening and changed my world. It made cardio fun. It took me back to my cheerleading and dance days, and best of all it helped me shed over 50 lbs and counting. In the beginning the majority of my fitness routine included Dance Fitness and walking. That’s it. Combine that with eating clean and the weight fell off.

Now let’s fast forward to the present. I am sitting at 169 lbs. I’ve put on a little winter fluff, but that’s OKAY. You are going to have set backs. It’s life. It’s how you handle those set backs and take control of them that matter. In the past if I gained an ounce, I gave up, I threw in the towel. “ This isn’t working…so why try? “ NOW, I take action. My set backs included, losing my job (which in turn threw me into a deep depression), a neck injury and a rotator cuff injury, but I OVER CAME IT ALL!

As I said above I am back to doing Dance Fitness regularly. I try to incorporate Dance Fitness in my fitness routine four times a week, combined with two days in the gym for cardio and lifting. This combined with clean eating has already made a HUGE difference. I am already seeing results. I can’t wait to see what the next few months bring and share my results with you all. I can not tell you how good it feels to be lifting again and part of the gym. I actually enjoy it, a LOT. The old Jamie is laughing hysterically right now. They only thing she lifted was the TV remote….

Also, I started a weight loss group on Facebook if you care to join, you can find it here. My hope is to encourage and inspire others to reach their goals and then reach for the stars. I want to share meal plans, weekly cardio challenges, workout events, and MORE! I have BIG plans, so stay tuned because I have a feeling it’s going to be a good show. Stay healthy y’all and be sure to find me on Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Snapchat to follow my weight loss journey!

To be continued…

– Jamie Lea

Veggie Turkey Pinwheels

Okay, I need Veggie Turkey Pinwheels anonymous… I have a problem. I have had at least one of these every day this week. Good thing they aren’t too bad for you! If you replaced the cream cheese with a low fat version then you are really going to be in business! These fit pretty well into my meal plan, the wraps are wheat and fiber packed, the recipe is nearly all veggies and 1% cottage cheese, and a little cream cheese for good measure. According to my fitness pal, they are packed with 14g of Protein and low carb.

The best part, these are so easy to make and you can slice them up and put them in containers to prep for the entire week. I would suggest, like I said, using a low fat cream cheese. I just did not have any on hand. I’m telling you, you are going to be addicted. I plan to put together more healthy recipes this week, so stay tuned! Also, be on the lookout for a weight loss update. I have been kicking ass and taking names this week!

Find the full recipe below and be sure to share and pin. What is your favorite kind of wrap or pinwheel? I think this recipe has my vote for sure. Be sure to check out more of my healthy recipes.Stay healthy y’all and be sure to find me on Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Snapchat to follow my weight loss journey!

Veggie Turkey Pinwheels

Course Appetizer
Servings 6
Calories 217 kcal


  • 1/2 cup Carrots (grated)
  • 1 8 oz. package Cream Cheese
  • 4 tablespoons Celery (grated)
  • 2 tablespoons Onion (grated)
  • 1/4 teaspoon Garlic Powder
  • 1/2 cup 1% Cottage Cheese
  • 1 tablespoon Pickle Relish
  • 1 package Sliced Turkey
  • 2-4 Wheat Flatbread Wraps


  1. Mix all ingredients except, turkey and wraps in a large mixing bowl.
  2. Cover and refrigerate the mixture for 2 hours.
  3. Lay out flat bread and place a layer of turkey on top.
  4. Spread your cream cheese mixture over the turkey. (Try to keep it fairly thin so that it rolls easily.)

  5. Next, tightly roll your wrap up jellyroll fashion.
  6. Trim the edges evenly and cut into 1 and 1/2 inch sections.
  7. Serve and enjoy! Each serving is 1/3 of a wrap.  

Recipe Notes

  • Calories based on 1/3 of one wrap, recipe can make 2 - 3 wraps. 

Panko Lime Salmon Patties

As most of you know I am on a weight loss journey, and let’s be honest sometimes it is a struggle to introduce new foods into your diet, let alone foods you are not a big fan of. Me and Salmon aren’t the best of friends. I don’t know if it’s the fact that it was my Paw Paw’s favorite meal, and growing up I felt like I ate it at least once a week, or the fact that I went to a really fancy restaurant one time and my hillbilly ass ordered “Salmon” and it came out still swimming. So, we have a love hate relationship.

However, I was bound and determined to introduce it back into my diet. So, I took an old family recipe and threw a little twist on it, and holy mother of Salmon Patties. These bad boy are GOOD. I may have had one for lunch and dinner. Oops. I promise you can not go wrong with these, and at only 240 calories per patty, uh yea sign me up! You can even replace the Milk with low-fat Milk, substitute the salt and tartar sauce for an even healthier version!

So next time you are craving a burger, or fried seafood, give these a shot. Switch it up. You can thank me later! Check out the full recipe below. Be sure to share it. Leave a comment below and let me know what your favorite seafood recipe is. Maybe I will give it a shot next! Let me know if you give these a try. I think I may have them again this week. I’m reverting back to my childhood! Stay healthy y’all and be sure to find me on Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Snapchat to follow my weight loss journey!

Panko Lime Salmon Patties

Course Main Course
Prep Time 10 minutes
Cook Time 15 minutes
Total Time 25 minutes
Servings 4
Calories 240 kcal


  • 3 4.5 oz. cans Pink Salmon
  • 1/4 cup Milk
  • 1 cup Panko Bread Crumbs
  • 2 Eggs
  • 1/2 teaspoon Salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon Pepper
  • few dashes Seasoned Salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon Cilantro
  • 1/2 teaspoon Onion Powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon Parsley
  • Olive Oil (for frying)
  • 1 Fresh Lime
  • Tartar Sauce (for dipping)


  1. In a large mixing bowl, mix together all spices, eggs, milk, salmon, and bread crumbs.

  2. Form mixture into 4 to 5 patties. (Pack well.)
  3. Heat up a skillet and olive oil on high heat.
  4. Fry on each side until each side is well done.
  5. Remove from heat and squeeze fresh lime juice onto each patty.
  6. Serve with tartar sauce and enjoy! 


88 Years of Wisdom With a Dash of 28

Growing up, I think I defied this woman and my mother in every way I knew how. They would tell be “that boy isn’t a good influence on you”, so I would sneak out to go see him. Your typical young adult, trying to figure out life and I’ll be damned if anyone was going to tell me how to make it happen. Little did I know her and my mother were doing their best to shape me into the women I am today. If I grow to be half the women they are, I’ll feel accomplished.

I sat down this morning with this wise woman, after throwing my laundry in the wash, I bet she really wishes I’d invest in my own washer. Anyways, I told her this week has taken its toll on those closest to me, along with myself. Life has consumed us. Social media has seemed to only highlight the negative lately, and it’s put so many of us in the wrong state of mind. So, I asked her if she would mind sitting down with me, and let me pick her brain and soak up her 88 years of wisdom, I asked that she give me her 10 best pieces of advice, from love to motherhood, and she so graciously did so. So here it is….

Love – Don’t be so quick to get mad, try to consider their side too.

I’ll be the first one to raise my hand and say I failed at this miserably in my own marriage. So many times, did my ex husband come home and I was infuriated because how dare he walk in, eat, and just go to bed. I took care of this household all day, I ran the 56 errands you needed done. I slaved over the stove to make sure you had a warm meal when you got home. Never considering the fact that he got up at 3 AM to make sure he could make his hour drive to work and catch the boat on time. Disregarding the fact that he just worked 12 hours, and didn’t get a break because they were short-handed, so eating wasn’t and option. Forgetting he stressed all day about those 56 errands he had me run, because he felt guilty he couldn’t do that himself. Stop and breathe for a minute guys, walk in your partners shoes.

New Moms – Just love them as good as you can, and don’t let everything upset you. They are new to this world and learning just as you are.

Just love them. You aren’t going to be a perfect parent, one doesn’t exist. You aren’t going to feed them fruits and veggies every day. You are going to mess up, it is okay. Just love them. Everything else will fall into place in due time. Remember, they are going to make mistakes, when they are 28 and living on their own in their little apartment, just trying to get by, (isn’t that a Martina McBride song), they are still going to make mistakes. This is their first shot at this life too. Remember that, teach them.

Dealing with Enemies – Pray for them.

I know, better than anyone that this is hard to do sometimes. Most days you wish they would trip over a sidewalk crack and split their pants. I get it, but if we are being real… I take this advice. Lets be honest, my ex husband’s girlfriend is probably one of my least favorite people. I am not a fan. Are my feelings justified? I am sure in my eyes they seem to be, but with that being said…. I still pray for her. Every. Single. Night. Why? Because my kids love her, and I need to make sure she lives her best life and is her best self, for them. So if all I can do is pray from the sidelines, I’ll do so.

Careers – Love what you do, and give it your all.

I just learned this the hard way. I was stuck in a career that everyone else wanted me to pursue. Everyone else thought I needed to be doing, and guess what? I was miserable… I recently took a risk and decided to chase my dreams and pursue a career in photography and blogging, and for the first time in my life, I am giving it my all. I’m here to tell you it was the best decision I ever made. Find what you love, chase it, and give it hell!

Marriage – Know that everything isn’t going to go your way, marriage is not one-sided.

What? You are telling me, little miss independent, that everything is not always going to go my way? Uh, my picture perfect ideal relationship isn’t the same as everyone else? You don’t say. Look y’all, YOU AREN’T ALWAYS GOING TO GET YOUR WAY. Everything is not one-sided, there has to be give and take, stop forcing things, things you want. Consider what they want. There are two people in this relationship, not one. Man I have learned so much. I am gonna make a killer wife…again…one day.

Children – Teach your children right from wrong, you are shaping them as adults. Also let them know, everything isn’t going to be easy.

You can not sugar coat everything, we can’t shelter our children their whole lives. Trust me helicopter mom here, I wish I could. But we are responsible for shaping them into the humans and adults they will become. Lead by example. Life is going to get hard. They are going to struggle, show them how to deal with their struggles.

Addiction – You can’t be their enabler. Even if it’s not intentional.

I know this is a touchy subject, but I had to go their. As I have loved an addict, but that’s another story another time. Let me say this, sometimes, especially us with big hearts, we enable without that being our intention. We make life easy for them. They don’t have to struggle. Sometimes we have to let them hit rock bottom, we have to let them struggle. So they can spark that flame within themselves to make a change. Juggling the Jenkins explains it best, check out this video.

When You Hit Rock Bottom – Someone loves you, let them love you. There is always a way out of any situation. Don’t be afraid to pray for yourself and your own needs.

You are loved. Don’t be afraid to call out for help. I promise you are worth it. I promise this world needs you and your journey is just beginning. You have a purpose.

Just Starting Out in Life – Think before you make your next move. Because your future and those in it depend on it.

Remember, your actions have consequences, and sometimes not only for yourself, but for those who surround you. Your consequences can spill out into the waters of your loved ones and contaminate it. Think not only before you speak, but put thought into each move you make. Don’t gamble with your future. You only get one shot at it.

Life – Don’t take to heart everything people throw at you. You have to think for yourself, don’t let others think for you. Because it’s your journey ultimately and you have to live it.

Finally, this. It’s so easy in the social media world to get caught up in the negativity, and lose ourselves. To stop beating to our own drum and follow suit with the rest of society. Remember, this is your journey and your’s alone. They are not walking in your shoes, they are not living your life, YOU are. Take negativity with a grain of salt. Be your best self. Be kind and love as hard as you can. Tomorrow isn’t promised. Be well everyone.

Thank you for stopping by.

– Jamie Lea

Banana Bread Breakfast Shake

I don’t know about you all, but in the mornings I need easy, and I need on the go. Because school drop off waits for no one! Plus, as many of you know if you follow my blog, I am on a weight loss journey. So, I also need healthy. So this week I whipped up a new shake. I needed something I could just throw in my Ninja or my blender, pour, and run out of the house like a lunatic, throwing back packs, and screaming down the hall, ” did you put on clean underwear?”  Look at me like that’s not how your mornings go. Well this shake met all of those qualification. I wanted to share the recipe with you. In attempts to make your morning routine a little easier as well. I can’t promise all your kids will fall into single file out the door with brushed teeth and matching socks, but you will have a healthy shake in hand mom. What am I talking about my socks don’t match.
Let me know below if you plan to give this shake a try. There is a share button at the top and at the bottom of this post, click that bad boy and share it across social media, especially Pinterest (because, I worked really hard to make it look like I live in a Pinterest house, when I took the photo.) Y’all know the truth. That is one of those highlight reel photos, I tell ya about here. Yes, I just put a shameless plug, in my post about my own post. Don’t you judge me! Anyways, be sure to share with all the other mom out there with busy mornings. Have a terrific morning.
  • 1 Cup of Plain Almond Milk
  • 1/2 a cup of Vanilla Low Fat Yogurt
  • 1/3 of a cup of Oats
  • 1 Tablespoon Brown Sugar
  • 1/4 Teaspoon of Cinnamon
  • 1 Frozen Banana
  • 1/4 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract
  • 5 Ice Cubes

Step by Step:

1. Freeze your banana and ice the night before.
2. Cut up your banana into about inch segments.
3. You can use a blender or Ninja, up to you. Both work fine.
4. Combine all ingredients in a blender.
5. Blend until completely smooth.
6. Add cinnamon to the top of your shake if desired.
7. Serve immediately.
8. Enjoy!
Now I’m off to go try to look like I didn’t just roll out of bed in the school drop off.
– Jamie Lea

Busted Knuckles and Bills

Over the last 3 years I have learned I can not depend on anyone but myself…

As young girls we are taught how to keep a home, how to cook, how to clean, how to raise children, but no one ever teaches you how to find a place to live after a divorce.  When you have $20 to your name, no job, and very few belongings. No one prepares you for how insanely hard college is going to be with two babies. No one tells you how many hoops you have to jump through to buy your first car on your own. When you have spent your life relying on someone else’s credit. No one warns you about the struggle to survive, pay bills, and keep food on the table when you find your first minimum wage job. No one can put into words how exhausted you will be after working 14 hours, staying up taking care of a sick baby, and then making sure your other baby’s homework is done, they get to sports, and lunches are packed.

Finally, no one teaches you how to pull a freaking wiper motor out of your car and how bad your damn knuckles are gonna hurt after you bust them 52x,  but guess what…

I promise you can make it all happen. It’s not always going to be easy. Some days you will want to throw in the towel, but one day you will wake up and say holy shit, ” look how far I have came “, or ” holy shit I just took my car apart and pulled out a wiper motor all by myself “, either or.

My point is, don’t depend on anyone, make things happen for yourself. Don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty. You got this I promise.

Stay tuned for my next trick. Changing a light bulb in my kitchen.

-Jamie Lea

I’m down to thongs…..

I’d like to tell you I’m that mom that has her shit together. That my house is always tidy, and muffins are in the oven, but I just threw a corn dog in the microwave for 70 seconds, because I’m too tired.  I’m down to thongs and lacy panties that have dust on them because I haven’t done laundry in a week, and I’m pretty sure I forgot to sign somebody’s permission slip.

I think as mom’s we tend to sit back and look at everyone else’s highlight reel, and compare ourselves to social media’s ” mom standard”.  It’s easy to do when, with the click of a button, you can see Tina’s five course meal she whipped up for the first time in months and blasted on Instagram and Facebook. While you stare at the plate of chicken nuggets you just threw in the microwave because there aren’t enough hours in the day.

But I promise… are killing it. Even if you did  have to rob your 9 year old’s piggie bank because he pulled his tooth out at 9 o’clock at night. Not that I’m speaking from experience or anything. Some days I nail this mom gig, and some days it’s a shit show, but it’s my shit show, and I busted my butt to get here.

Four year ago I was a newly single mom sitting on an old leather couch, in my empty apartment I couldn’t afford, wondering how I was going to provide for two tiny humans, and keep food on the table. All the while watching a YouTube video on “how to drive a five speed”. Because I landed a 99 S-10, single cab, manual, sitting on 20’s in divorce court. (Insert giant eye roll), but that is another story, another day.

Now here I sit, owning and operating my own business. Chasing my wildest dreams, with two of the coolest little dudes this side of Indiana, genuinely happy about life. Was it easy? HELL NO! I had more sleepless nights and negative bank accounts then my kid’s had TV dinners, but I made it. I survived. (Breaks into Destiny’s Child- Survivor) I did it because I’m a mom and I have two boys that depend on me. I’m not going to sugar coat my life. I’m going to be real and take you along for the ride. Hopefully inspire you to give yourself a little more credit, or you just take a peek into my world, and think ” damn, I have my shit together” either or.

Listen, some days you are going to microwave some corn dogs, and some days you are going to go ham in the kitchen and put Martha to shame. It’s all about balance. So tonight, when you are laying out your best thong for tomorrow. Because what’s laundry at 11 o’clock at night? Pat yourself on the back for making it thus far, and being the best mom you can be.

Now, excuse me while I go eat my granola bar in the bath tub.

-Jamie Lea